Do you ever find yourself saying, “I just don’t have the willpower,” when talking about how you’re going to meet a goal, such as losing weight, eating better or practicing the all-important self-care?
When we think of willpower, we often associate it with the strength of our character, and we believe that it is a ‘power’ we need to possess to achieve our goals.
How do you feel when you haven’t met that goal? Do you feel as though you’ve failed and perhaps even blame that failure on lack of willpower meaning you lack the strength it takes to meet your goals?
What if I told you that willpower doesn’t have anything to do with achieving your goals? In fact, willpower isn’t really about strength or character. What it is really about is putting your environment against your goals and creating an internal conflict with what you want to accomplish. You not only have to understand what you want to achieve and what needs to happen to be your best self, but you also have to commit to it.
Now, it’s time to surround yourself with the very best tools to help and support your power for self-change. You are who you are because of your environment because you adapt to what that situation holds for you.
If your commitment is to establish a healthy routine, for example, it’s important to surround yourself with people who live a healthy lifestyle and will support you. Your connections in your circle may include your group from your local gym, fitness class or a group of friends who have collectively decided to commit to a healthy lifestyle.
You also need to surround yourself with the right nutrition and foods creating an environment that promotes that routine that is your goal. Think about the side effects for a moment. You are creating this great environment that will impact not only you but also your family as they are now in this same situation. That’s pretty powerful for self-change.
Think about this approach as it applies to your self-care. Understanding how to create that power for self-change does, in fact, have an impact on your self-care and self-development. It’s not internal strength or willpower that determine your self-care focus; it’s the environment you create for yourself that does that.
Take a look around you as well as within you. Do you understand what it is that you want to accomplish? Are you committed to doing what it takes to achieve your goals? Do you have the right connections around you that provide positive support and influence? Do you have the right tools necessary to meet your goals?
By answering all of these questions you are creating your power for self-change and on your way to being the best you possible.
You are the author of your life, create your own story!