Have you ever looked at yourself in the mirror, and thought, “I am not good enough?” I have.
For many years, I let this limiting belief define me. I became so self-conscious about everything, from the way I looked, to what I wore, to the ideas and thoughts I believe, you name it! I would always ask myself, “What is wrong with me?”
Low self-esteem had consumed me and endured years of pain and suffering. I told myself, “I am not good enough.” I constantly measured my weaknesses and self-worth against other’s strengths and successes. Unfortunately, we live in a society where images in magazines and mainstream media only set us up for failure.
The pain I felt every day, and the abuse I put myself through became so much that I finally hit my breaking point. I needed to make some serious life changes: personally, professionally and spiritually. That is exactly what I did!
“Change happens when the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change.”
— Tony Robbins
It was the most challenging thing I have ever done, facing the fear of the unknown. I was afraid of change, but to grow, I needed to welcome and embrace change. I had to unlearn everything I believed to be true and learn to love and accept myself — imperfections and all.
Throughout my journey, I’ve realized that a countless number of people struggle with these same issues every day, and while I don’t have all the answers for everyone, I share with you what worked for me.
I knew I wasn’t truly living and desperately needed change. Over the years, changing the outside wasn’t working so I spent a lot of my time focusing on the inside. I did a lot of reading, praying, meditating and reflecting on where and how I got to this point. I needed the change to come from within.
My old ways of thinking had only gotten me so far, and if I wanted to change, I needed to start with my mind, a new way of thinking. When you change your mindset, everything changes.
“Isn’t it funny how day by day nothing changes, but when you look back, everything is different.”
— C.S. Lewis
I knew if I wanted to be the best version of myself, I needed to learn from the best. I spent a lot of time praying and doing some serious soul-searching and learned to embraced the time I’d spent alone. I found that the old me would find distractions to avoid dealing with the pain and emotions I was trying to outrun.
I reached out to a fitness and health coach who specializes in helping women develop healthy relationships with food and their bodies while getting them to their fitness goals. This was the best thing I ever did. By doing so, it cut the learning curve and provided me a path of structure and balance. I sought help in my professional career and started working with a business mentor. Through prayer, reading, and daily devotionals, my faith has continued to grow; I am not on this journey alone.
I learned a lot from motivational and inspirational speakers, watching videos, seminars and connecting with like-minded individuals. Two of my favorite go-to authors, motivational and inspirational speakers are Tony Robbins and Brené Brown.
“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy — the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”
— Brené Brown
A few of my favorite books are:
Daring Greatly By Brené Brown
I continue to “struggle” each day, but I use this word loosely because I know it’s not a struggle, it’s a necessary part of life. There will always be ups and downs, positives and negatives, good days and bad days- the natural ebbs and flows of life.
Life is no longer a blame game; I’m no longer a victim. Having awareness has given me the power and control over the decisions and choices I make and the direction I choose to live. Life is a journey, there is no shortcut, and we need to embrace all the good with the bad. Every day, I strive for progress, not perfection.
Today, I can say with confidence, “I am perfectly imperfect.” I hope you will be encouraged to take the first step to living your life more fully because I am living proof that change is possible.
By sharing, I hope to inspire, encourage and empower others to live life with passion and purpose. Change starts from within — welcome and embrace it! You too will reach a point where you can look into the mirror and say, “I am…ENOUGH.”