So powerful and moving! This video had me in tears.
“What you think you become;
What you feel you attract;
What you imagine you create.”
This is one of Buddha’s famous quotes, and it cannot be truer.
Sometimes we think the worst, most defeating thoughts about ourselves and we may not realize how bad they are until they are voiced out loud. We would never speak to our best friends this way, why is it OK to speak to ourselves this way? It’s not, so let’s stop!
“Why do we say things to ourselves that we wouldn’t ever say to (or think about) to our best friends? Be a best friend to yourself.”
We all have those negative voices that never seem shut up, and they’re always telling us who we are, what we should do, say, think, and feel. Like you need to ask an imaginary voice for permission to be who you were born to be. Allowing them to judge, criticize, rule and eventually ruin our life.
Why do we have the insatiable need to feed these thoughts and validate them?
Why Do We Tear Ourselves Down?
We all go through difficult seasons in our lives that cause us to feel depressed, hurt, sad, lonely or even rejected. We need to be aware of how we feel when going through these motions because it’s usually then that these negative voices start to creep in.
We are our own worst critics! The irony is, more often than not, we judge ourselves based on other people’s standards. For instance, when it comes to weight and body image, the media depicts what a woman’s perfect body should be. In an attempt to fit into this societal description of a perfect body, many of us will go to great lengths and through a lot of frustration, yet still fail to attain that ideal perfect body. In our futile attempts to achieve this perfect ideal, we tend to lose focus on what truly matters; who we really are, what our purpose is, and living and loving unconditionally with a grateful heart. In your perfect imperfections, you are beautiful and complete. Be proud of who you are and see that beauty comes from within you, not from the acceptance or appearance of others. Be unique. Be you.
Embrace everything life gives you; the good and the bad. They’re all part of your journey.
It’s impossible to be positive and think negatively at the same time. Try it!
The more we love ourselves and praise our worth, being and existence, the quieter these voices become. It’s when we don’t value ourselves that we hear them loud and clear.
How can we treat strangers with respect, love, and compassion but treat ourselves, who we know better than anyone so poorly? Whenever these voices start to creep in, counteract them with positive affirmations; I Am strong! I Am capable! I Am blessed!
Surround yourself with positive like-minded people. Who do you hang out with? Who are the people closest to you? Those that you call friends? Our friends are a reflection of who we are. Think of the five closest people to you today. How do they influence the decisions you make? How do they add value to your life? Are the relationships you hold dear building you up or pulling you down?
It’s difficult to stay positive when you’re surrounded by negativity. Just imagine if you spent a whole day affirming yourself. And then you later meet with your friends who instead of encouraging you, begin cutting you down, telling you how it’s impossible for someone like you to achieve such greatness. Isn’t that a huge slap?! If you call them your friends please know, this is not how friendship works. That’s a reflection of their own insecurities and you don’t need that negativity in your life. If it doesn’t serve you, cut it loose.
“We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with.”
Don’t undervalue your worth or allow someone else to define you.
We all need and crave love, attention, and acceptance. But you’ll never appreciate it from someone else if you don’t love yourself first.
How do you get there? Find something in your life to love and be grateful for every single day, and slowly, the negative voices will start to dissipate.
It could be something as simple as loving your smile, a great hair day, or maybe someone held the door for you. There is always something to be grateful for.
I challenge you to find something that really lights you up, ignites the fire within!
When you feel that joy and passion, take advantage of the moment, and you will see yourself for who you are. Beautiful, loving and worthy of it all!
“Change the way you look at things and the way you look at things change.”